Prequel To RG’s Changed Circumstances Part 2: Mommy and the SVBC

December 22, 2008

When Mommy (Out-of-Law-Partner) moved from being a Montessori pre-school teacher to a fully certificated elementary school teacher, her first full time job (after a year of public school substitute teaching) was at the very same School for Very Bright Children (which I will call SVBC)
As an infant, RG was enrolled in the school’s crèche. They did not require intelligence testing for infants. It was convenient in that Mommy could visit and nurse RG during her own lunch break.
As RG progressed from infancy to toddling, Mommy and Mama (Random Daughter) became dissatisfied with SVBC’s crèche/preschool and transferred her to pre-school #2. After a while, they became dissatisfied with pre-school #2 and transferred her to pre-school #3, conveniently only a few blocks away from Mommy and Mama’s house.
However, the Mommies became dissatisfied with pre-school #3. One of their criticisms was that discipline had become negative and sexist. Little boys tend to be a little more rambunctious than girls; Mommy had observed the school a few times and seen several boys were frequently put on “time outs” instead of being encouraged to play more constructively. The expectation seemed to be that boys would be “bad” and this prejudice became a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The mommies began to consider sending RG back to SVBC again with the goal of putting her in a school where boys and girls each get to be…well boys and girls. RG may have two mommies, but they realize she may grow up to marry a guy (these things happen), and they hope that if that happens, she will give him a fair start in the battle/race we call wedlock.


6 Responses to “Prequel To RG’s Changed Circumstances Part 2: Mommy and the SVBC”

  1. pandemonic Says:

    The mommies are idealistic, which is a common trait of parents. I don’t want to squelch their enthusiasm, but once RG ends up in any school, any individuality, free thinking ideas, and creativity are likely to be beaten to a bloody pulp. As much as mommies would like to shelter their young (speaking for myself as well), the Real World will intervene and there goes our well-laid plans.

    (p.s. I’ve always wanted to use the words “bloody pulp” in a blog comment. Yours has been wisely chosen.) 🙂

  2. modestypress Says:


    Your points are fairly well taken.

    a) RG is an aggressive, and spirited child, and big for her age. The question may be: who wil be beaten to a bloody pulp once she is in a classroom?

    b) Isn’t bloody pulp something that goes in the Christmas egg nog?

    c) A few days ago, my wife looked out the window at our bird feeder. She said, “Ewww!” Onder the bird feeder was a red splash in the snow. Closer examination revealed nearby a bloody pulp of little bits of flesh. As best we can figure out, a hawk had a pre-Christmas snack on one of the song birds. I took a couple of pictures, but I haven’t uploaded them to my blog. Merry Christmas, everybody.

  3. spectrum2 Says:

    I know people similar to the Random mommies. In fact, I have to deal with a person like that quite frequently. The actual problems are different, but the desire to have the best for her offspring is there. I cannot go into details, for legal reasons, but lets just say that this mommy is well educated and has a very bright child. Then she encounters Spectrum, the girl from the school of good ol girls, and poor Spectrum has to find herself jumping through hoops to satisfy mommy on behalf of her child. Now, Spectrum’s kiddies are not that old, and she hopes that she is not a pain to deal with in regards to the outside world’s interactions with her child. Only time will tell. *sigh*

  4. truce Says:

    Every time I see a cute, podgy little baby and think “Ahhh, how lovely” I will remind myself of this kind of terrible – and ultimately probably insoluble – problem.

    The Gordian Knot would be easier.

  5. modestypress Says:


    That is a complicated problem. Mommy is as far as I can tell (I am biased in the matter) a superb primary school teacher. She is also a very polite and respectful person.

    When observing another teacher with her child, I think there will be two conflicting impulses which will come together as: Can I trust this person who doesn’t know as much about teaching as I do to educate my darling, opinionated, and brilliant child?

  6. pandemonic Says:

    Now I have the image of bloodied bird babies for Christmas locked in my mind. Mmm… perfect for a bah humbug kind of year.

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